When a woman cheats on her man, it's usually for one of four reasons, and it's beyond the man's control. For whatever reason, once a woman decides that there's something missing in your relationship, she's stepped over the line and at that point, her man's pretty much helpless to stop her. Even though she's the one who's cheating, she'll blame it on you because she thinks the flaws in the relationship are your doing.

Emotional distance, the first of these reasons, is cited as the reason for many breakups.  The complaint? "He doesn't pay enough attention to me, we don't communicate enough." Women in relationships need to feel needed, admired, beautiful - and they expect their men to satisfy those needs.  They expect men to be alert to, and receptive to, their feelings, and to talk about themselves and their feelings as well.  If these things aren't happening, they'll feel their man is "drifting away," a harbinger of more serious problems. Without the emotional closeness, the relationship's on rocky ground, and a woman is often likely to step out in search of a new man.

The second reason women will cheat on their men is neglect.  That's reasonable, but it's still fraught with pitfalls.  The man who's always underfoot, always in his woman's face, will soon be considered to be clingy: too dependent, too needy, too immature - and too replaceable.  She'll feel confined.  On the other hand, however, when a man understands that he's got to give his woman time on her own to grow, and enhance those things he loves about her, she might decide he doesn't really care.  She might decide he's neglecting her, and she'll use that space to find another man.

Women, like men, need to have a healthy sense of self-esteem, and they expect their men to provide a great deal of it.  Even though they're no longer dating, they want their men to carry on the "courtship behavior" of complimenting their appearance. As frustrating as it may be to you, she'll try to get from another man the boost to her self-esteem she feels she's not getting from you. While most men understand a woman's need for self-esteem and try to reinforce it, if a woman feels she's not getting enough attention in this area, chances are good she's going to cheat.

Finally, a woman is likely to cheat on her man if she simply feels bored and needs a change of scene. The woman who does this is particularly immature, because she needs the constant sense of being in a relationship as opposed to being on her own, strong, independent and in charge of her own life. It may be easier for her to remain in a relationship while shopping for a new man, but it's emotionally and morally dishonest, as well as highly inconsiderate of the man's feelings.  She'll likely find all the same old problems in her new relationship.

Regardless of the reason a woman gives for cheating on her man, the awkward truth is that they probably weren't suited to each other. True love requires honesty and communication, and a woman who cheats on her man destroys any trust there may have been. Any woman who comes to the conclusion that she's not getting what she needs from you, and that she's therefore justified in cheating on you, doesn't deserve to be with you in the first place.

There are four reasons why women leave men. Even with just one of these issues in the relationship, a split will eventually happen. We will examine the four big causes so that you will be able to take a look at your own relationship and determine if it is in jeopardy.

The first factor is control, which is a something that could either come from the man or woman. When either of the partners is controlling, it will eventually push away the other, no matter how great the relationship may be otherwise. Women specifically cherish being independent in this day and age, so give her some time to herself from time to time. It is to say that women need space once in a while; there are times when women do things that only a woman should do. For example, going out with her friends for coffee and “girl talk.” There may be no logic to it, but these outings are necessary for the woman to relax.

The second issue is jealousy. There is nothing more likely to spoil a relationship quicker than a jealous man tracking his girlfriend to always know where she is and what she is doing. Jealousy is a control problem that needs to be handled. A woman's love will fade with bursts of jealousy. The man is unsure of her love and commitment, even if he has no cause to be With each display of jealousy, the man is deteriorating their relationship.

The next thing is that women do not want a man that is a “nice guy,” as women tend to like confident men that take initiative. Women are searching for a man that can take charge situations and not someone that is needy and always expects someone else to step up and take care of things. The woman needs to feel secure and that the man next to her can care for and protect her. So get in the habit of taking the lead and quit being so wishy-washy whenever you are making plans.

The last reason is that no one wants to live with a bum. A woman seeks protection and needs the comfort of being secure and that her man is able to provide for her. If you just waste your life sitting at home watching TV or playing video games you woman probably resents this. Find a passion with your life, a cause to live for, something you can get excited about and makes you jump out of bed in the morning. When a man has a solid goal and is constantly working toward it, it somehow makes his woman feel incredibly devoted and committed to him. A woman likes to tell everyone about how exciting her man is and how he makes her feel. This won’t happen if you just watch TV all day.

If you can handle these four aspects of your relationship then you will have a long healthy relationship with any woman. When you have any of the four traits above you will probably find it to be extremely challenging to find a solid and stable relationship.

For more great tips on how to understand your relationship, check out why women breakup with men, and why girls dump guys.